Can we please stop equating the pointing out of an issue or fault with "complaining", and the sharing of grievances with "seeking pity"? Because neither is the case for me. I casually think out loud, pointing out things without necessarily categorizing them as "good" or "bad". I will also casually share issues I face in my life, not for the sake of getting pity, but because I may want to point out that my problems aren't always so simple to solve.